Office Queen Bees and How to Cope With Office Bullying

Office Bullying

Not everyone likes to admit it, but bullying is still alive and well in the adult world. In most cases, bullying occurs in the office environment and it can turn very hostile very quickly. It has been suggested that the office ‘queen bee’ type of bully typically begins being problematic after having been in the same role for too long, longing for more. While not realising that it is their own behaviour which is stopping them from achieving their career goals, they do their best to thwart the goals and aspirations of others who are trying to work their way up the corporate ladder.

If you have encountered an office bully in the past, or you are dealing with one in your office right now, keep reading for some tips that will help you cope with office bullying and show that office queen bee that her bullying is only hurting herself.

Signs of Office Bullying

While office bullying doesn’t take the form of your lunch being stolen and you being shoved into your locker, it can make work difficult for everyone. Here are some signs of office bullying:

  • Excluding people
  • Stealing others’ work
  • Anger issues
  • Spreading lies and rumours
  • Controlling behaviour

Ways To Deal With An Office Bully

Dealing with an office bully should be done systematically. Try the following tips, in order, to help you cope with an office queen bee and to ensure that you have done everything you can to diffuse the bullying situation before taking the next step.

Stay Calm

Bullies are after one thing and that is to get inside your head and destroy your day. Don’t let your emotions get the best of you.

Know that you are not to blame

Don’t forget that you are not to blame for their actions and that their bullying isn’t anything personal. They often don’t have the confidence that you show and they are often incapable of being better at your job than you are.

Find support in your coworkers

Chances are, you aren’t the only one being bullied and you can find support in your coworkers. This will also make it easier for you to go to human resources or management and voice your compliant.

Document everything

Keep notes of every bullying incident including the date, time and severity of the bullying. Also include any witnesses to the bullying and give these to human resources personnel.

Speak with management

Don’t be afraid to speak with management or human resources about the bullying problem. It is their job to ensure the workplace is a safe and productive environment for everyone and you should let them deal with the bully. Document your emails and any meetings with HR.


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